When you are making out with a girl and escalating to sex and she starts giving excuses to not have sex you are getting Last Minute Resistance. This is a common thing especially when you meet a girl and are going for the lay a couple of hours later. Because you don’t know each other for that long these objections will come up in her mind.
In this article you will know more about what LMR is, why it happens and how you can go through it.
So you saw a nice girl, went up to talk to her and got her back to your place. Now you are in the bedroom and the clothes are starting to come off. Everything is going great and then she starts giving excuses and it looks like she doesn’t want to have sex. She doesn’t want you to touch her breasts or take all her clothes off… this is Last Minute Resistance.
Don’t worry because once you are done reading this article you will have a good understanding about LMR and you will know how to deal with it.
These excuses and verbal objections to sex are a natural reaction before casual sex because she doesn’t know if you will stick around after sex. Lots of guys treat a girl differently after they had sex with her, they change their personality, get up and leave, etc. On the moment before sex these thoughts storm through a girls mind and she is confused and wants to be assured that you will stay after sex.
These are some common examples of Last Minute Resistance:
Different women will have LMR of different types and intensities and this will depend on the attraction and rapport you have with her. The type of personality and mood of the girl also matter, if she is on vacation somewhere and is in a big party mood then LMR is less strong or non existent. The same girl may have a lot of LMR when she is back home. This has to do with social pressure that is put on women, because it is not “politically correct” to have casual sex…
Most women get a nervous feeling toward casual sex, kind of like the feeling that a guy gets when he has to approach a hot woman that he doesn’t know. In evolutionary terms it is risky to have sex with a guy that will not stick around to protect her and the child. She doesn’t think out this this consciously, it is an instinct like when a guy gets nervous approaching a woman he nerver talked to before.
If you want to be with the girl that night you have to go past the LMR or you will just end up sleeping beside her. If the girl went back to your place or she let you in her place, there is a 99% chance that she wants to be with you. If she didn’t want anything she would have cut the interaction short much sooner.
The best way to avoid LMR is to do a few venue changes and take your time with the girl. If you change venues 3 or 4 times it makes her feel like she knows you better, because she has these memories of you guys being in 3 or 4 different places. Its like you have been on 3 or 4 dates already. In the Mystery Method the whole pick up process takes about 7 hours, which is enough to destroy most chances of heavy LMR.
I have had one night stands where I picked up girls in a little over an hour and was back at the hotel with them. These lays happened mostly when I’m on vacation and everyone is in a party mood. Being on vacation gets girls in a happy party mood and they don’t have the social phobia of appearing like a slut because no one knows them. This makes them more inhibited and open to one night stands. In these cases you don’t need so many venue changes, but each girl is different and there is no rule that depends on the location or the girls personality or her nationality.
The more time she feels you spent together the less likely it is that LMR arises and if it does it will be weaker.
There are a few things you can do wrong when trying to overcome last minute resistance:
The main reason why a woman gives you LMR is because she doesn’t know if you will stick around after sex. This doesn’t mean that she wants you to stay around after sex, it means that she wants the option.
The first step to deal with LMR is to make 3 things clear to her:
These three points are called Rikers 3 rules in the old school seduction community. Remember: protection, something we both want to do, something we won’t regret.
The next step to deal with LMR are freeze outs. When a woman says “no”, you get up, turn on the tv, read a book or do something else unrelated to intimacy. Although she said she didn’t want sex she was enjoying the cuddling and making out. This will put a big amount of pressure on her and she will ask you what is wrong.
You just say that nothing is wrong and that you understand what “no” means and that it is a big turn off for you. If she says “no” its a big turn off for you but you understand and look unaffected. After that she will come and sit near you and she will hug you and start making out again, time to escalate and try again.
Another type of freeze out I used with success is just stopping the make out and the grinding. If you are already in bed and you just need to get the panties of, you just turn around and try to sleep. She will touch you and you can show a little bit of discomfort when she first touches you. She will say whats wrong and you just start making out again and go for the panties. Women need different emotions, they like the ups and downs, the emotional spikes, this gives you a little spike (good emotions, then she is scared that you don’t want her, then you amp it up again).
These are the main ways to deal with Last Minute Resistance… be sure to check out the article on how to seduce a woman with more tips for the end game. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to leave a comment below and I will answer it as soon as possible.