Many guys want to know how to get a girlfriend so that they can have a nice relationship with a nice girl. Getting a girlfriend is easier for some guys than for others and it all depends on the skill you have with women.
To be able to get a girlfriend you need to know how to approach a woman, how to create attraction, get her number, create some more attraction and then seduce her. After the seduction and getting intimate, then you can start the process of making her your girlfriend. If you then like her and she likes you things will flow naturally.
The point is that you should not be “looking to get a girlfriend” until you can approach a few girls and get some numbers… because if you can’t do that ,the girlfriend scenario is not going to pan out. If you don’t want to approach dozens and dozens of women a week that is fine, but you need to build up some skills with women.
After you have slept with a woman she will be much more interested in having a relationship with you, and if you do it the other way around it will be harder to get a girlfriend. If you try to make her your girlfriend before she has shown enough interest in you (when she sleeps with you she show a lot of interest… duh) then she will be more willing to commit. Nowadays women are used to one night stands, friends with benefits type relationships and so forth. This means that before you sleep with her you should not bring up the relationship talk, and not take it serious when she brings it up before you sleep with her.
The most common mistake that guys who want to get a girlfriend make is being to nice and landing in the friend zone. When you go out with a girl and go on dates and pay her dinner she keeps you on a line… Women like the attention of the dates but they keep their options open, go out to clubs and have fun with other guys, make out and have the occasional one night stand.
If you want to make her your girlfriend she has to feel attraction for you, you have to be the man and make her feel like a woman. When I say you have to be the man that does not mean send her flowers and open the doors… It means you have to make her laugh, make her feel attracted to you, challenge her and create an emotional connection.
The second most common mistake of guys who pass through the game is getting the girlfriend and retreating back to their nerd lair. The nerd lair means your comfort zone, you just want to cuddle with her on Saturday nights and watch a movie. Everything becomes boring for her and then she dumps you because you stopped doing the things that made her feel attracted to you in the first place.
This is even a challenge for more experiences pick up artists. After some time you have a natural tendency to be more calm and you can’t keep the game up like when you first met. This is OK but this is different than becoming a chump. You still have to create attraction, be a challenge, make her laugh… and be the man. This is where it pays off to hone your skills with women, when you get the right woman, you have the tools and the training to do the right thing.
Many guys that are looking how to get a girlfriend say that they don’t want to be players and give some excuse about not wanting to manipulate women… Being good with women is not about manipulation and it is not a bad thing. You have to look deep down inside of you and be honest to yourself… you don’t want to take risks and you want to stay in your boundaries… that is where the excuses come from.
I understand that you are afraid to approach girls, you don’t know what to say and that a woman broke your heart. Surprise: 99% of men have been dumped and have approach anxiety. The easiest way to get a girlfriend (and to lower your chances of rejection and have a higher quality woman) is to be open to learn and to experiment these techniques out… have confidence in yourself and take action. These techniques will make you go out of your comfort zone and you will learn many new things about women and human interaction in general.
If you do not take action now there is a chance that you will not take action later, and that means you will be stuck with this problem forever. Do you want that? Or do you want to take control of this area of your life and become a happier and more fulfilled human being?
The first step is to read how to attract a woman and read the articles on how to approach women. This will give you a good understanding on how to make her feel attracted to you, you will know what to say and how to approach a woman. Good luck!