How to Approach Women

Approaching a woman is the first step in the seduction dance and it is the step that most guys have trouble with. You get nervous, you feel your heart pounding, you don’t know what to say, you feel like everyone is looking at you.

Manny guys get pumped up with these dating tips, but when the time comes to approach a good looking woman they freeze up and do nothing. What can you do to go past this fear of rejection and approach anxiety? So… How to approach a woman?

You feel like a player but when the time comes to approach the best looking girl in the room you get cold feet and just keep talking to that average looking girl you approached earlier. Or it could be worse… you just stand there with your drink in your hand looking lonely and feeling like a loser.

This is called approach anxiety and it is very common for beginner pick up artists and newbies… how do you solve it? That is easy: you learn pick up strategies and you go approach girls. Your first approaches will suck, you will be nervous, you won’t get a number, she may even ignore you! You have to accept that you will not make the perfect approach and that you will get rejected a few times. That is not a problem because every guy has to go through it and there are enough girls in the world for you to practice your skills on.

Why you have to approach

You need to approach because it is your role as a man. Hot girls don’t approach guys, their job is to go to the gym, get a tan, spend 3 hours getting ready to go out and stand there looking pretty. They dress up and try to make themselves stand out with style and good looks to attract men.

The approach can be the most intimidating part of the pick up but you have to do it. You have 2 choices:

1. Approach a girl and get a chance to be with her
2. Do nothing and never see her again.

If you do nothing you have ZERO chances with her. If you do a bad approach you still have good chances. You have to make the decision to be a REAL MAN that goes after what he wants (this applies to women, money, sports, etc). A real man wants to be a WINNER and he goes after what he wants.

Later in life, when you have grandchildren you will be happy that you took risks and went after what you wanted. If you do not take action you have to settle for what you can get and you will always wonder what you could have done. Don’t be like that!

If you want to approach a girl and pussy out, imagine yourself being old and looking back on a boring life and with no stories to tell. Then take the “risk” and go talk to the girl.

Be confident, be the man

You will get rejected and you will feel bad… ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON. The best way to solve this is by getting the phone number of a hotter girl. Women like men that are confident, funny and masculine. Confidence comes from experience and when you learn how to approach women correctly you can really impress and stand out.

Body language on the approach

The most crucial part of your approaches is your body language. You can say almost anything if your body language is correct. The objective is to look nonthreatening, calm and confident. You don’t want to show to much interest, you are there because you like to talk to girls and it is a fun thing for you.

Here are some body language tips to incorporate in your approach:

• Make eye contact with confidence. In the beginning this will be hard because you will have a reflex to look away. A hot woman will look you in the eyes and if you get nervous or look away then she knows you are interested and nervous. Don’t look at her cleavage (I mean don’t get caught looking).
• Don’t lean in. Keep a normal posture and don’t lean in to hear what she says. Tell her to talk louder, she will talk louder or come closer to you so you can talk.
• Don’t stand right in front of her, talk to her over your shoulder. When she turns to you, you can also turn to her.
• Keep your hands out of your pockets and don’t cross your arms
• Don’t make too much gestures with your hands
• Don’t talk fast or stutter, because it shows that you are nervous
• Project your voice loudly and talk at a normal pace
• Avoid approaching from behind. It is easier to approach from where she can see you.

I hope that these tips on how to approach women are useful to you, read them and apply them. The most important thing is that you go out and approach women and get some experience.

Many guys read this stuff and love the material and keep reading and reading. You don’t need to read a lot to be able to get laid, but if you read too much you will become a seduction theorist and when you finally do your first approach you will piss your pants because you are so nervous!

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